Marriage and Change

quoted from John Smedes’ article “Controlling the Unpredictable – The Power of Promising”

My wife has lived with at least five different men since we were wed—and each of the five has been me. The connecting link with my old self has always been the memory of the name I took on back there: “I am he who will be there with you.” When we slough off that name, lose that identity, we can hardly find ourselves again. And the bonds that connect us to others will be frayed to breaking.

How thankful I am that Kassie has stayed with me these 8+ years. She has stuck with me as I have changed and as she has changed. We have changed together, we have changed each other, and we have been changed by our individual lives and experiences. Through it all, by God’s grace, we have so far said, “I will be there with you.”

As we keep on changing- getting better in some ways and worse in others- may we stay together no matter who we become.

For more and better thoughts on this idea, have a listen to this excellent sermon from Tim Keller, where I first heard the above quote.


About Brian Phillips

Brian lives in Spain with Kassie and their kids.
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